Protecting Yourself in Social Settings

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Trust your instincts. If something feels “off,” trust your gut: It probably is. Many times people ignore their gut instincts out of politeness or not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings. You are always allowed to leave a situation without explanation, but especially when you feel threatened. While this may be more difficult in situations where you know the person who is making you uncomfortable (and in some instances, may even be related to them), keep in mind that most sexual assault victims know their perpetrator.[2]Three out of four rapes were committed by someone known to the victim, while 93% of juvenile sexual abuse victims knew their abuser.[3]It can be very difficult to stop caring about what other people think. If you are still feeling compelled to stay in an uncomfortable situation, you could think to yourself: They started it! The person who is making you feel uncomfortable clearly doesn’t care about your feelings, so why should you care about theirs?

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Have a plan to get out of an uncomfortable situation. Think about what you might do if you were at a party and someone started touching you in a way that made you feel uncomfortable. What would you say? How would you get away? Planning ahead and visualizing your response will help you feel more confident and prepared in case something were to happen.Make sure someone else not at the event knows where you’ll be and who you’ll be with.[4]If you are going to an event with your friends, talk to each other beforehand about looking out for each other, or coming up with an emergency “get me out of here” word that can be employed when someone feels unsafe.[5]For example, if you are meeting someone new for a drink at a restaurant and they are making you uncomfortable, you could excuse yourself to the bathroom and inform a server you need help, ask the kitchen staff if you could leave through the back entrance, or ask another person in the bathroom for assistance.

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Use your own transportation. Don’t rely on someone else to take you home. Drive yourself or take public transit.[6] If you’ve had too much to drink, call a taxi or use a ride service, or ask a trustworthy friend.Always carry extra cash for a taxi.Be wary of offers of rides from strangers, even if they appear concerned.

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Watch your drink. Keep your eye on your drink at a party. Keep in mind that alcohol is often used to help commit sexual assault. Make sure that you know the strength of your alcoholic drinks, your tolerance level, and that no one is spiking them with additional alcohol.[7]Be very wary of others buying you drinks. You could accept the drink and not drink it or put it down somewhere and “forget” it.Hold onto your drink and cover it with the top of your hand.Watch the bartender or party host make your drink or open your drink in front of you, even if it’s just a bottle of water.[8]Predators can drug your drink to make you feel extremely drunk, confused, or weak, and likely be unable to defend yourself from a sexual assault. These drugs are commonly known as “date rape drugs” and include Rohypnol, GHB, and ketamine.[9]

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Look out for others. Pay attention to behavior that may be making another person uncomfortable. Do not hesitate to intervene and offer assistance.For example, say you are at a party and notice a man groping a woman who seems very intoxicated. Team up with another guest to help extract her from the situation. You could go over to her and say, “We have been looking for you! We have the best news we want to share!” Pull her away from the other person and ask her if she needs help. If the man seems dangerous, consider alerting the party host and/or calling the police.
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Taking Everyday Precautions

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Stay safe in your home. Make sure you have your doors and windows locked. Close your curtains at night.[10]If you hide a spare key outside your house, make sure it is in a well-hidden spot, not under the doormat. Even better, give a spare key to a neighbor you trust.Keep your phone by your bed.Consider putting a security company’s sticker on your window or sign in your yard to serve as a deterrent, even if you don’t have a security service.If you feel you are being followed on your way home, don’t go home. Switch directions and head toward a public place instead.

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Be aware of your surroundings. It is easy to be in your own little world out in public places, wrapped up in a phone or daydreaming, and zone out as to what’s in front of you. However, stay alert to any suspicious behavior or anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable.If you can, make a mental description of a suspicious individual’s appearance, including your best guess of their age, height, weight, and ethnicity.When walking or running, stay on populated, well-lit paths. Do not wear headphones.[11]

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Enlist help if you are being followed. If you feel as though you are being followed, you want to attract the attention of as many people as possible. Don’t be scared to reach out for help, even though you may be afraid of appearing paranoid. Most people will be willing to help you.Duck into a store or restaurant and get help from employees.You could approach a person or group of people and say loudly, “Oh, there you are! I’ve been looking all over for you!” Once out of earshot, explain the situation and ask if they can help you.If there is no one else around and you can’t enter a building safely, try making, or pretending to make, a call on your cell phone. You could say, “When are you coming to pick me up, Dad? I’ve been out here for fifteen minutes!”[12]Always call 911 if you feel threatened. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

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Know where you are going. Map out your destination ahead of time. If you know you will be in an unsafe area, go with someone else.Walk as if you know where you’re going, even if you’re lost. If you’re lost, find a police officer to help you. Women with children are also a good option.Avoid walking alone at night if you are in an unfamiliar area. Walk with a friend or get a ride.

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Enroll in a self-defense class. Consider that in only 11% of rape and sexual assault incidents, an attacker used a weapon.[13] Learning how to defend yourself from kicks, punches, and being restrained can give you a chance to escape your attacker.You can often find these classes in community centers, colleges, or in martial arts studios.Consider carrying a keychain with a whistle or other small, self-defense device attached to it. You can find these available for sale online.

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Use technology to help you stay safe. Most people carry their phone all the time, so take advantage of some of the safety features on your phone. Most importantly, make sure yours is fully charged before going out.There are several mobile apps you can install on your phone that let you call for help or alert friends to your location. Try searching for “personal safety phone apps” to get started.

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Draw attention to yourself if you feel threatened. If someone is making you uncomfortable and you can’t get away, get loud. Make a scene. Thrash and flail around. Remember, being safe is more important than being nice and polite.For example, if someone sits next to you on the bus and intentionally leans too far into your personal space, yell, “Get away from me!” Attract attention and have others help you deal with the situation.Do not be afraid to defend yourself if you feel you are being threatened with physical harm.
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