Saturday, 26 June 2021
Friday, 25 June 2021
Resilience Parenting: Raising Resilient Children in an Era of Detachment and Dependence Kindle Edition by Chris Santillo (Author), Holly Santillo )Interview -Ghostman Radio Radio
ISBN-10: 0190054514
ISBN-13: 978-0190054519
Publisher: Oxford University Press (February 14, 2020)
Language: English
ISBN-13: 978-0190054519
Publisher: Oxford University Press (February 14, 2020)
Language: English
People say there is no handbook when it comes to raising kids. Not true anymore. Resilience Parenting is it if you want to raise kids who can handle anything! I've worked with children for thirty years, and I wish I had the wisdom contained in this book when I started. It would have made me a far better parent and teacher."
—Mark Goblowsky, host of the podcast Strength Through the Struggle
Resilience Parenting: Raising Resilient Children in an Era of Detachment and Dependence
by Chris and Holly Santillo
Publisher: Lioncrest Publishing (March 22, 2019)
Your children will face many challenges in the years ahead, so you want to raise them to be resilient—strong, adaptable, and able to recover. It is your mission to empower your son or daughter to cultivate a functional and fulfilling life. This essential handbook will help you achieve that goal. In Resilience Parenting, martial arts instructors Chris and Holly Santillo share the insights they have gained as teachers and parents. They offer positive alternatives to lecturing, bribing, and punishing; focusing instead on three Pillars: Learning, Integrity, and Service. By applying these powerful principles, you can inspire your children to develop the independence they need to succeed as adults while renewing their connection to family and community. Whether you are raising a teenager or just starting your family, the methods prescribed in this book will help you unlock your greatest potential as a parent.
Parents, both new and old, will find much of value in these pages."
—Kirkus Review
"This is the book that the nurse should hand new parents at the hospital. It is an articulate, straightforward, and approachable guidebook, which can be easily read in just a handful of hours, on transforming the bundle of baby into a productive adult."
—Martial Journal
"Chris is fighting the twin evils of our era: excessive fear for our kids, and busybodies trying to enforce it."
—Lenore Skenazy, president of Let Grow, author of "Free-Range Kids," and founder of the Free Range-Kids movement
"Resilience Parenting provides a new twist on time-tested tactics that will help us be better and do better. Read this book!"
—Connor Boyack, president of the Libertas Institute and author of "Passion-Driven Education: How to Use Your Child's Interests to Ignite a Lifelong Love of Learning"
"This is a superb and practical book, founded on years of teaching and parenting. The principles in this book provide the life tools missing in most homes and classrooms today. Learn them, then use them."
—Steven P. Bucci, former Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defense for Homeland Defense
"As a Special Forces officer and lifelong student of leadership and training, I have spent a lot of time and effort trying to divine what makes a person more resilient. Chris and Holly Santillo's book Resilience Parenting masterfully distills what they have learned in over twenty years of teaching martial arts and parenting and conveys those lessons in an easy-to-understand and entirely implementable way. As someone who has entrusted my children to their training--and who personally knows their three boys--I can attest that what they do works. I give his book my strongest possible recommendation."
—Roger D. Carstens, Lieutenant Colonel US Army Special Forces (retired)
"We are at a crossroads in our country. We either continue down the path we are on--creating generations of kids who lack mental fortitude, emotional resilience, and physical health, leading our country to financial, moral, and social ruin--or we pivot and begin to create the conditions for our children to grow into mature, healthy, free, and fully functioning adults. Resilience Parenting is a road map toward the latter. I hope enough parents are smart enough to pick it up."
—Michael D. Ostrolenk, MA, MFT, Master Coach and Program Director of the SEALFIT Unbeatable Mind Academy
"As parents and educators, we all want to guide our children to be strong, independent, and resilient. This book is a must-read for all. Highly recommend!"
—Chip Townsend, 14x ISKA World Champion, 7x World Record Holder
"Resilience Parenting is an approach grounded in truth that lays out a clear actionable road map to grow the potential of your child. Far more than superficial advice, its approach creates sustainable pillars for your child to build their life upon. If I could only recommend one parenting book for someone to read, this would be it!"
—Christopher Rappold, Executive Director of Team Paul Mitchell
"I have known Chris and Holly for a long time. I have watched them teach self-respect and self-mastery in the dojo and then successfully transfer that knowledge to parenting three boys. I know that they have been successful because I have seen those boys come in for immunizations aware and unafraid, get the shots without crying and leave proud of themselves. This type of parenting is worth emulating."
—Dr. Jacki Arnold, MD, FAAP, pediatrician and parent
About the Author:
Chris and Holly Santillo are not your regular authors. Chris has a degree in Computer Science from Harvey Mudd College and an MBA from Georgetown University. Holly has a degree in Anthropology from Williamette University. They are the epitome of the Latin phrase "Mens sana in corpore sano," which means "A healthy mind in a healthy body."
Having strong backgrounds in Martial Arts with Chris being the founder and Head Instructor at Potomac Kempo in Alexandria, Virginia, and Holly being a Senior Instructor, they have managed to develop the principles of Martial Arts into a cohesive parenting methodology.
They believe that children (and parents) with broader horizons and an open mind can sow the seeds for future generations of confident, strong, and resilient adults.
Now, you can find them gliding through the Siberian steppes on the Trans-Siberian Railway, visiting the buzzing markets of Samarkand on the Silk Road, or wondering at the vastness of the Gobi Desert in Mongolia. They have decided to live a nomadic life and explore the world with their three boys in order to bring back memories, ideas, experiences, and a fresh view on life.
Join their epic journey at www.FiveBackpacks.family, visit www.ResilienceParenting.info for more information on their book, and www.PotomacKempo.com to learn about their Martial Arts teachings. Visit them on social @ FaceBook | Twitter | Linkedin
Thursday, 24 June 2021
ENID AND MARK S BLESSING 15 JUNE 2021 AS IT WAS OUR 30 TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY
30th Wedding anniversary for Mark and Enid Raines
18 Glebelands, Holsworthy – 2pm 15th June 2021
Dear Enid and Mark, I would usually welcome you to the place that your anniversary celebration is taking place, however in this instance I would like to say that I feel very welcomed to be in your lovely home! I love all your garden ornaments outside!
I feel honoured to have been asked to hold a small blessing for you both on your 30th wedding anniversary today…Many congratulations, I was interested to find out that Pearls are the Symbols of the 30th Wedding Anniversary; long-lasting and ever-growing, the 30th anniversary signifies a deep bond, a solid relationship moulded by experiences and perfected in time – similar to a pearl. Like pearls, couples who reach 30 years of marriage are relatively rare, and the pearl symbolises the beauty and scarcity of such a wonderful union. As the traditional symbol of the 30th anniversary, pearls represent everlasting love and purity. After all, pearls are strongly connected with the idea of love. Legend has it that Cleopatra herself crushed a large pearl, then drank it, in a gesture meant to show Marc Anthony her everlasting love.
I’m thinking that you probably didn’t drink a crushed pearl Enid to show your Mark your love however I loved hearing that you went one stage further and actually bought your husband in the 80’s after he placed an advert selling himself in the lonely hearts section of the Back Street Heroes, biker magazine. That is so cool, although Mark told me that sometimes you think you should have a refund! You went through many challenges then to be together and here you are still over 30 years from then!
So going back to the Pearl idea, I suppose that is when the pearl first started, like a grain of sand in an oyster…gradually over the next 30 plus years it has become a beautiful pearl with a few special dates along the way. August 1988 must have been a special time Mark when you moved from your native Essex to Devon for you both to be together and then, of course, the reason why we are here to celebrate and offer a blessing for this particular date 30 years ago – 15th June 1991 you married at Holsworthy Register Office! Where you both stated ‘I do solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I may not be joined in matrimony to the other’ and you called upon those persons who were present to witness that you Mark, do take thee, Enid, to be my lawful wedded wife and Enid the same to take Mark to be your lawfully wedded husband! What a joyous day that must have been, with the reception at The White Hart Pub dancing to the Blues Brother’s music! I hope it was a beautiful sunny day like today!
Although it wasn’t a church wedding they were still sacred vows that you stated to each other and everything else that was said on the day…., I know that your faith is important to you Enid so I would like to offer some words from the Anglican marriage ceremony and offer a blessing… where the vows are to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth. You have indeed lived up to those vows having been through many challenges together over the years….But always coming through together, talking things through.
I have a short prayer…..Heavenly Father, we thank you for this day as we celebrate 30 years of marriage together for Enid and Mark. We thank you for journeying with them. Thank you for making them strong and keeping them close. Forgive them for the times they may have failed each other or the times they may have hurt one another.
I’d also like to offer the Lord’s prayer here, let us pray…
OUR Father, who art in heaven, Hallowed be thy Name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, On earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, As we forgive, those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, But deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen.
I asked Mark if there were any special readings that he may like and he shared with me the words of a song that he finds very special…The song is called No Matter What..
No matter what they do
No matter what they teach us
What we believe is true
I can't deny what I believe
I can't be what I'm not
I know I'll love forever
I know no matter what.
I love those words, so beautiful and heartfelt just like the fact that you try to tell each other every day that you love each other. The basis for a beautiful pearl of a marriage.
Is there anything that you’d like to say to each other now?
As a final blessing I have chosen the beautiful words of John O’Donohue, an Irish writer of blessings and beautiful books.
FOR MARRIAGE
As spring unfolds the dream of the earth,
May you bring each other's hearts to birth.
As the ocean finds calm in view of land,
May you love the gaze of each other's mind.
As the wind arises free and wild,
May nothing negative control your lives.
As kindly as moonlight might search the dark,
So gentle may you be when light grows scarce.
As surprised as the silence that music opens,
May your words for each other be touched with reverence.
As warmly as the air draws in the light,
May you welcome each other's every gift.
As elegant as dream absorbing the night,
May sleep find you clear of anger and hurt.
As twilight harvests all the day's colour,
May love bring you home to each other.
Bless you both and here’s to more years together…..
Thank you for asking me to be part of your anniversary, it feels very special and an honour……
A big thanks to
Rev. Nixie James-Scott
OneSpirit Minister
Life Cycles Celebrant
Home & Family Led Funerals
www.instagram.com/unique_
Who provided the blessing we requested at a very reasonable cost.
And
Andrew Phillips on
Who helped me find someone to do the blessing
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