Enid

 Recently my wife's health has been going down hill,she has had a series  of 3 falls only once did me and Shane managed to get back up the other 2,one the care company that she receives care from had to come out with a specialist machine then we had the ambulance to check her over.

The most  recent fall was the early hours of Tuesday morning un which she slipped off the bed ,her legs dud a sort of splits and landed under her bed ,her body and face were head first on my bed.

After numerous attempts to get an ambulance out one arrived, I also informed one of her daughters who lives locally, she came up to help.

Both Ambulance crew tried to move her without  much success so another crew turn up then the fire brigade turned up in total it took roughly 8 people and two lifting gadgets to get her up,then she was taken to local hospital to be reassessment of care which the paramedic told me which made me feel judged for failing to care for my wife. 

She is at present at Local Hospital after a blood transfusion she was to taken to the medical assessment unit to await assessment of her new needs.

It's made me and Shane feeling stressed and worried, slightly paranoid about the situation which is going to lead to a total change of life style and may end in my wife going into a care home.

This the email u sent to local hospital 

believe my wife  Mrs Enid Raines is g oing to be in your department for medical assessment. 

She is uble to walk to to severe weakness in both her legs,we are now come to the point we can longer cope with aiding her with her  able to use the commode or getting her out of bed.

I have found her speech is slurred and its not always easy  to understand her.

She is getting more prone to infections and cellulitis, we need a new assessment to cater for her needs for her to have a quality of life,which I believe will mean more care during day,equipment etc .

I myself am finding very difficult to cope as it's affecting my disabilities so I would not be willing to able to help  her until she has a proper assessment plus at moment I have to contact her OT worker due to New bed put in is unsafe due to one copside very loose therfore unsafe in my opinion .

It tough decisions ahead ,life can drag you down but I ask fir help as I suffer various medical problems and my friend helped me out to take away the stress.