Tuesday, 30 July 2024

The 5-4-3-2-1 coping technique for anxiety

 The 5-4-3-2-1 coping technique for anxiety

Also known as the 5 senses grounding technique, this is for anyone who is feeling anxious. It’s a practical tool that helps us to regain focus on the present situation and calm down. This grounding technique uses your 5 senses to focus on the moment you’re in, enabling you to let go of anxious or stressful thoughts.


This technique asks you to find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. Using this with someone who feels anxious will help to calm them down and reduce their feelings of anxiety. Read on to find out how to use the 5-4-3-4-2-1 coping technique for anxiety.


5 things you can see

The first step to the 5-4-3-2-1 coping technique for anxiety is to name 5 things that you can see.


Look around you and count 5 things that you can see and say them out loud. You might be able to see people walking by, birds flying in the sky, or the rain running down the window. Whatever it may be, as long as you can see it, it counts.


Take a deep breath in between each thing you can see. This will help to level your breathing and will begin to calm you down.


4 things you can touch

Once you have named 5 things you can see, you can move on to the next step of the 5 senses grounding technique. You must name 4 things you can touch.


Maybe you’re sat on a chair, and you can feel the chair on your legs or back. You might be able to feel the ground that you’re standing on. Even your hands on a table counts. As long as you can touch it, it counts.


Once again, take a deep breath in between each thing that you name.


3 things you can hear

Once you’ve named 4 things you can touch, you can move on to name 3 things you can hear.


Whether you’re inside or outside, you’ll be able to hear things around you. If you’re at home, you might be able to hear the washing machine or the clock ticking in the background. If you’re outside, you might be able to hear birds chirping or cars moving down the street.


No matter what it is, as long as you can hear it, it counts. Remember to keep taking cleansing deep breaths in between each thing that you name.


2 things you can smell

Once you’ve named 3 things you can hear, you can move on to name 2 things you can smell.


It might be easier to do this with your eyes closed, to block out any distractions. Maybe you can smell food cooking in the oven. You might be able to smell flowers or an air freshener nearby.


Whatever it is, as long as you can smell it, it counts. Once again, don’t forget to take those lovely deep breaths. You might be feeling a bit less anxious by now.


1 thing you can taste

Finally, once you’ve named 2 things you can smell, you can move on to name 1 thing you can taste.


You might be able to taste the coffee you had this morning, or some food you’ve eaten. Perhaps you can taste chocolate or a tangy taste of orange from your breakfast.


Whatever it is, as long as you can taste it, it counts. Take 1 more deep breath and you’re done! Hopefully, after this, you feel a little less anxious and a bit more relaxed.

Not toxic but no paper tiger

 Lessons learned from recent events that could have destroyed my life, once I was calmer I could deal with it better. I informed the local place via YouTube to take down the video, although I watched it frame by frame at least three times and only saw an old lady walking into the frame no face was seen . I still don't know what I did that upset a person enough to ring up a local place and the complainant may never will. I now block anybody who gives me negative vibes and only use said Facebook group for local information of upcoming events . I will also stand my ground if I am not in the wrong I am not innocent I will never name and shame but I do know toxic people don't like being played at their own game. Not toxic but no paper tiger.

review Holsworthy 44

 Holsworthy 44 _Great Day Out, learned a lot and liked the exhibitions, but a few downsides, One volunteer asked for donations, the sound system had feedback, on the programme map showed another part of the day Holsworthy Football Club as part of Stanhope Park Holsworthy which is not, a big Ty for all the volunteers.

3 .5 out of 4 ⭐⭐⭐ as it needed a few tweet                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Stanhope Park

Holsworthy

Walk south towards Sanders' Ln

0.2 mi

Turn left onto Sanders' Ln

72 ft

At the roundabout, take the 1st exit onto North Rd/A388

Destination will be on the left

446 ft

Holsworthy Football Club

Holsworthy EX22 6HF

Thursday, 25 July 2024

Holsworthy -Town that is a village

 Holsworthy describe s itself as a town and is recorded in the doomsday book but it's essence it is still a village.

Mostly its a friendly place,people say good morning,crime rate is low but like most villages it still has an elements of it you are not part of a click you are judged not to be deemed worthy.

The (Town) itself is is in disarray as we have like many no more banks,we have only one chemist due to the one in the square being closed down for legal reasons,the market is not what it was and at one point their was discussion of closing it down.

We have one major supermarket ,and two smaller  ones,3 charity  sh ops,numerous cafes,pubs,hairdressers.

The school are both well attend the college has a bit of reputation ,the local doctors is struggling to cope I think mainly due branching out too much.

The local (Town) council has very limited powers ,the place is generally clean and tidy,we are served by church and chapel,we have a skate park ,a local museum and did to sign of the times a community fridge .

Two martial arts clubs,a small leisure centre which if college did not exist suspect would close down.


We have limited visitors attraction s mostly ok drive through

Don't get wrong I love living here as I don't need a car or public transport to access local park,shops etc.


This is just my opinion

Holsworthy Saga (Reason Why Not On Social Media)(But Went back)

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When  I was on Local Facebook Group Holsworthy Moan And Groan I shared a video promoting local cafe  In Stanhope Park,Holsworthy not expecting to later on to get harassment from one of its members accusing me of being P..v..t  and even going to the length s of ringing up said cafe to complain about me.

Evidence _Video taken of local cafe in Stanhope Park to share on YouTube,and put on Holsworthy Moan And Groan , only one person complained unsure why , sometime later I asked by owners of said Cafe to take video down which I did but i felt as if I was being accused of something anyway i put about not illegal to film or photo in public place and i always have the option not to include any pictures of children 


I was asked to take the video down so I did as I was asked ,but still sense this created a toxic vibe with some people hence why I have come off social networking,yes I was angry and upset to point it affected my cognitive health.

're Edited 

After some reflection I have gone back on social networking with the renewed confidence that if get toxic comments from people I shall just block them,turn off notification,leave group,I shall only keep my comments to emojis,and I will no longer sure from other groups bar my own or post on other groups

I was vaguely threatened by this person to come and meet up with them  which I ignored due 


1-Martial Arts Training -Best Thing To Do in A Fight Is To Walk Away


2 -The Hardest Thing is to Forgive the person involved but this I do via this post 




I wrote an email to cafe involved their were very understanding,but I just wanted to post and share how easy it is to destroy someone else's life with your actions and deeds via the media which is social networking ,so lesson learnt 


  




What is illegal video recording?


Illegal video recording is taking videos without permission or otherwise capturing videos in a way that violates any prior agreement. That means filming or screen-recording content you don’t have permission to film.




Illegal video recording might take place for personal use. However, it’s often done so the person recording can distribute their illegal footage, for free or otherwise. They might share the videos privately or make them publicly available online.




When do people illegally record videos?


There are plenty of occasions that people take advantage of to record videos illegally. Perhaps the most obvious example is in cinemas. Whenever you go to see a movie, you’re expected to put all devices away, especially video equipment. This is partly to prevent you from taking videos without permission. Of course, unless you run a movie theatre, you’re unlikely to experience this type of illegal video recording firsthand.




In business terms, people might illegally record videos during calls or conferences. If your small business phone services offer you the chance to speak to customers or team members via video calls, you may find employees creating personal records of those videos. They might then make them less personal by sharing them online.




Businesses might also host events that are susceptible to illegal recording. For example, speeches and workshops could be recorded without the hosts’ or participants’ knowledge or consent. In short, if there’s an event happening, either virtually or in person, it’s always possible that illegal recording might take place

Sunday, 21 July 2024

The Whispering Gallery

 The Whispering Gallery

Chapter I: The Accusation

In the heart of the ancient city, where cobblestone streets whispered secrets and gas lamps flickered like dying stars, there stood the House of Ravenswood. Its timeworn façade bore witness to centuries of sorrow, and its halls echoed with the anguished cries of those who had once sought refuge within.


I, Nathaniel Blackwood, was the unfortunate tenant of this cursed abode. My days were spent poring over dusty tomes in the library, seeking solace in forgotten knowledge. But one fateful evening, as the moon hung low and the wind clawed at the windowpanes, my life took a sinister turn.


The constable arrived, his lantern casting elongated shadows across the parlor. His eyes bore the weight of judgment, and his voice dripped with accusation. A murder most foul had occurred—the Lady Isadora, daughter of the neighboring Lord Ashcroft, lay lifeless in the garden maze. Her throat, delicate as a swan’s neck, had been slit from ear to ear.


And they pointed their bony fingers at me.


“Blackwood,” the constable sneered, “you were seen near the maze, your coat stained with crimson. A lover’s quarrel, perhaps? Or something darker?”


I protested my innocence, but my words fell upon deaf ears. The evidence was circumstantial—a twisted dagger found beneath my bed, its blade still wet with Lady Isadora’s blood. The court of public opinion, fueled by gossip and superstition, condemned me outright.


Chapter II: The Raven’s Judgment

The trial was swift, the jury merciless. The judge, a man with rheumy eyes and a penchant for hanging, pronounced my fate: the gallows awaited me at dawn. My pleas for reason were met with the cawing of ravens perched atop the courthouse, their ebony feathers a mockery of justice.


That night, I paced my cell, the walls closing in like a coffin. The moon peeked through the barred window, illuminating the etchings on the stone—a desperate plea for salvation. But salvation was a phantom, and the noose tightened around my neck.


Chapter III: The Haunting

As the sun painted the sky crimson, I ascended the gallows. The crowd jeered, their eyes devoid of pity. But then, a whisper—a spectral murmur that cut through the clamor. The Lady Isadora herself stood at the foot of the scaffold, her throat still gaping, her eyes accusing.


“Why?” I rasped, my voice a mere echo.


Her ghostly lips moved, forming words only I could hear. “Seek the hidden chamber,” she said. “The truth lies within.”


And so, with the hangman’s knot tugging at my life, I stumbled back to Ravenswood. Beneath the floorboards of my study, I found the concealed passage—a tunnel leading to the heart of the maze. There, amidst thorny vines and moonlight, I discovered the true murderer: Lord Ashcroft, driven mad by forbidden love and jealousy.


Chapter IV: The Raven’s Redemption

I confronted Lord Ashcroft, his eyes wide with guilt. He confessed to the crime, his trembling hand guiding mine to the hidden dagger. Justice, it seemed, had a taste for irony.


As the sun rose, the ravens circled overhead, their caws a requiem for lost souls. I was exonerated, but the House of Ravenswood would forever bear its scars. Lady Isadora’s spirit, freed from her earthly bonds, whispered her gratitude before vanishing into the mist.


And so, dear reader, beware the whispering gallery of fate. For in its dark corners, innocence and guilt entwine like ivy, and justice wears a raven’s mask.


Finis.


Ah, there you have it—a tale of woe, betrayal, and spectral justice. May it send shivers down your spine, much like a midnight breeze through an abandoned graveyard. Now, tell me: Have you ever encountered a mysterious house or felt the weight of unjust suspicion? Or perhaps you’d like another eerie tale? 🕯️🌑


: Image source: Pixabay


: Inspiration drawn from the works of Edgar Allan Poe, particularly “The Tell-Tale Heart” and “The Fall of the House of Usher.”